It is so easy for me to give an honest opinion, yet I can't seem to listen to myself. Especially when it comes to my H. Why is that?
Because when we give opinions to others, we don't have as much at risk as when it's our own situations. Our own emotions aren't playing into it.
Originally Posted By: ~乃G才
I haven't heard from H since last night. He texted me a bit while I was out with friends and when he asked why it was taking so long for me to answer I explained I was out with friends, and he said "oh well I guess your busy." And I didn't hear from him for the rest of the night.
Let it roll off your back. Although it could read as controlling on your H's part, you don't know that for sure... so stop the mind reading right now.
If it is his own securities playing into it, it is not your place to stop them. You can't control what he will do.
Originally Posted By: ~乃G才
Why do I feel like I should be apologizing for something I did, even though I haven't done anything? The absolute last thing I want to do is walk on egg shells for anyone, however I am so scared of messing things up.
The short answer - Caz you're scared. Long answer - well you know what it is.
It's sooo hard when we don't have control over the things we REALLY want. That's why detaching is so important, because only then can we make the most loving decisions.. for ourselves.. and for our spouses.
also - please listen to me - tattoo it on your body.
You can play every card right.. but you do NOT have the power to recon your marriage ALONE. IT REQUIRES BOTH OF YOUR HEARTS TO BE IN IT.
Originally Posted By: ~乃G才
I wish I felt more confident.
How do you get that? How can you start believing that you are worth chasing after? That you are worth the effort? That you are worth facing inner demons for?
You feel your husband is worth it... why not you?
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M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
