The biggest complaint was that she just feels we keeping going thru this phases, where we happy and then we fall into a kind of funk where we develop issues. When we talked on christmas she had the impression that I was gonna file for divorce after the holiday's, and I think she convinced herself to keep from getting herself hurt. For the last couple of months, sept, oct. nov. I really didn't care if she was there or not. The PA on her part has been a big problem for me, we never really talked about it when we got back together, just tried to put it behind us, and I have harbored resentment over the years for this. After talking to my Counselor she made me realize that I was wanting her to hurt like I hurt after the affair and that's why I couldn't get past it. The last few months I wanted her to feel like I felt. No realizing that I was pushing her away. I have met with my C and feel that I'm working past the affair. I want to show my wife I can be the person she married and treat her right.
