Valentines Day, stepchildren, and the LRT

[Yogoer]

We might be in different places emotionally, but i have my anniversary the 9th and then V day. I bought an anniversary card a couple of weeks ago and made it a new home in the garbage a couple of days ago. Separated 5 weeks now - not acknowledging either.

Her birthday was last week and i did get her a gift - learned from that mistake - she found a reason to be upset with me for it and the card and offering to see her IF she wanted. Normally i go all out for all 3, which has been pricy for sure but i loved making those days special for her.

180 for me - no gifts, no cards, no calls, no texts. No kids here, so i am taking advantage of the opportunity to go dark. Only communicating about the necessities. I know it won't be easy, but i've been through hell (her too, i am sure), and despite some worries from time to time, i feel better not talking to her or seeing her.

Instead of doing something amazing and special for her this year, i did something special and amazing for me (another 180) - i take off day after our anniversary to live out my dream of becoming a certified yoga teacher. In Costa Rica. With my own funds. Not out of spite - GAL ing and 180ing. I never used to pursue my dreams, so i'm doing it.

You'll make the best choice you can, but i gotta agree, the books and lists will likely backfire.

Peace, love, and my prayers.

Yogoer