MLC or Passive Aggressive or Narcissism

[sleeper]

[quote]"I might be making the biggest mistake of my life, but I've got to do this right now."[quote]

Mine railed at me once, "Don't you think I know what I'm risking?" At the time I thought she meant she was risking losing me if she changed her mind and I refused to take her back but now I think she was referring to financial liss. Yeah but I'm not quite sure how that driven to do this thing fits into the PA personality trait model.

[quote]"...how long it will be before (X's) PA behavior appears in the current marriage to (OP)"[quote]

I think it's already there (has been all along) in my X's marriage. They fought quite a bit during courtship. Off/on, etc. I honestly expected the engagement to fall through. Now that I'm convinced she's using him for financial gain I can see the motivation t make it work. X sits by me at Dr appointments for kids in front of OMH. He tried to get her to move by him at the last one. She refused. Kids think she's trying to make him jealous. Now I think it's just classic passive agressive behavior.

She's always been bossy from time to time but doesn't accept being bossed. If on tge phone she barks orders to get things she needs convo punctuated by urging, "quickly, quickly". OM irons her cloths for her and runs errands such as driving our kids places for her. His X wife was bipolar. Go figure.