Husband's wants out & one foot out the door...

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Good job not saying it out loud. Fish tanks take a lot of work if you haven't had one -- algae scraping, chemical balance in the water, and every so often you need to change the gravel and clean out the tank. Just so you know it's a bit of a work permit.

Detaching is hard for everyone, not just you, and it's not something you can just decide to do and flip it on or off like a light, you need to work on it every day until it becomes second nature.

I struggle with it too, despite the fact that I'm piecing I still let W's moods influence me too much. I haven't found the secret other than continued effort.

WRT your exercise program, goals are the key. It doesn't matter what they are, it could be weight, it could be measurements, it could be the amount of time it takes you to do something, it could be the distance you can go in some particular exercise activity. What I've found is that doing the activity can be a great stress relief, but it's keeping a log and measuring progress that can really help you feel better.

As you see your progress from week to week, it's inspiring and helps to rebuild your damaged self-esteem. Plus, it gives you something else to think about and focus on. Set a modest goal, figure out how to measure it, and start keeping track, the "in control" feeling is priceless when your spouse is off the rails.

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