Valentines Day, stepchildren, and the LRT

[Broken74]

Hi Folks,

Hope all are faring well in their respective sitch's. If you thrive on ridiculousness and would likely like to feel better about your sitch feel free to review my primary thread lol
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2214349#Post2214349

I am employing the LRT in my sitch (Physically separated late August 11) although I am not doing the greatest job at it as we ended up hanging out last night. Valentines day is by far my wife's favorite holiday, and I am struggling with what to do for it next week, with respect to her and my stepchildren. I know within the bounds of the LRT I should do a 180 and do nothing at all, and as hard as it will be that is probably what I'm going to do. Then I wonder about the stepkids though, I am trying to show that I want to improve on my relationship with them but I still think that doing nothing there is probably the best bet. My wife made the statement that she doesn't want them getting confused given we are in no-mans land right now.

I have been considering the following options, and would be interested on any feedback you guys could offer given the brief synopsis above.

1) Do nothing, for her or my stepkids on Valentines day basically ignore the holiday. This would be an extreme shock to her I think, and probably be the thing to do given how I shot myself in the foot going over the top/allowing her to cake eat during Christmas.
2) Give her a copy of "A Day by the Sea" (assuming it is applicable after I buy and read it today) along with two bookmarks that I got. One being the "Love is patient, Love is blind" scripture that she included in the bible she gave me some time ago. Another talking about the evil that the tounge can do, given that my alcohol induced verbal tirades were one of the key catalysts to where we are now. Give the kids a card, some candy and maybe $10.
3) Give her a copy of "Everday's a Friday" and the above mentioned bookmarks.
4) Write her a short note and include some of the variants from the "What I've learned" post that apply to me.

This is one of those situations where I think I know what I need to do but it is going to be very hard to do it. Just like why I am failing with my LRT, but I have to say our interaction yesterday was positive there is no doubt about that, obviously I am looking too much into that.

So hold fast and do nothing right??? Anybody have any better ideas for Valentines who are in the midst of LRT?

Thanks in advance for any feedback and good luck!