"Remember that your h must believe marriage to you can be better/different and that the affair won't be held over his head for life or thrown in his face whenever you get angry. You will have to let it go at some point.
That's a big challenge, but it's mandatory for reconciliation...be sure it's what you want."
Thats one of the things you will learn at Retrouvailled anyway, how to put the past behind you. 25 had posted a lot to me about that too, even before I went to Retro, and boy, did it help me a lot! Its one of the reasons my H told me (during retro) that he realized I was there for him, and that I was on the path of forgiveness. Honestly, its hard, and once in a while I do remember the A and get all hurt and angry, but if you want your M back, you have to learn how to do so. I think you do, and I think you get the DB'ing!
25, no matter how much you know that an OP is just a symptom of M problems, it is still the one thing a spouse can do that will give so much hurt and pain!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
