Glad you are doing ok. You did the right thing by speaking with an attorney. I myself am an attorney, and despite the obvious biases, it is usually always a good idea to see one if you think you need it. Sounds like you picked a good one who isn't going to push you into anything. Excellent choice! Lots of times, people pick the wrong attorney, who just wants to fight for fighting sake and that's not usually a good idea.
Anyway, this thing is over when you want it to be over. If you don't believe that, go back and read my posts. Divorced in December 2010. Wife came back once, left again and I'm still on the train. We had a great visit today. The only reason we had the nice time today is b/c I haven't given up. I guess what I'm saying is, don't give up unless you want to, and only then give up after careful consideration and taking a calm cool look at your situation. Not in an emotional moment for sure. I hope all goes well for you...you're doing well, regardless of how you see it. Good luck!
Thanks Ed I appreciate the words of encouragement. I know my sitch is not nearly as dramatic as many here. All the same, I guess its just the "tryanny of the present" that's killing me. Woke up this morning and on my drive into work I am really missing the W. Fortunately this is not manifested outwardly.
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
Went out with work friends tonight. Had a great time! Too much booze - miss wife desperately tonight. Even with the attention of other ladies, still miss her. No worries - no texting or emails. Just wanted to share before bed. D'oh!!
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
GM: I went out for the first time last Saturday. I went to a show of DJs that were a favorite from us "old schoolers" of the 'rave' scene. All my old 'crowd' was there, the music was fine. I purposely stuck with only a couple of drinks because I could feel myself getting a little blue after a two.
Some people drink to forget. Sounds like you and I may be the kind where if we drink, we remember lol
Well I have a 3:00 apointment with my IC. I took a week off last Monday. Seems to do more harm than good most of the time - I always leave her office very sad.
After the shrink I am stopping by the house to pick up the dogs for the week. W is already in Atlanta so I will not see her. I HATE going to the house! I know she has probably done something to express her commitment to the divorce - such as the pics being piled up etc..guess I'm just borrowng trouble here.
I am entertaining thoughts of asking her about retrouville. Not right now, but next month perhaps telling her I will give in to the D if she goes with me. Honestly not trying to be controlling here. I have my doubts she would even agree. I wish I was not so impatient!!
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
GM, I can certainly sympathize with you about going to your W's living space. My W has the whole upstairs to herself (only 2 rooms and a 1/2 bath), and going up there does weird things to me. I automatically start looking for signs of what she's up to. I can't even help myself. I ostensibly see things I don't want to see, then get mad at myself for not wearing blinders when I go up.
Just make it a quick trip, try not to even use the restroom while you're there. That's the best advice I can offer on that front.
Be careful about retrouvaille - might work if you pick your battle, but as you've already acknowledged, controlling actions won't help.
Me: 31 W: 28 M: almost 6 T: 10.5 S2 Bomb#1: 05/11 Bomb#2: 11/11 S'd: 11/28/11 Moved back in: 12/28/11 MC: 06/28/12
I don't want to hijack Crimson's thread so I'll ask here.
Like others, I am a bit dismayed by Crazyville's post on Crimson's Pt.8. Not an indictment of what she said- I promise. She made some really good points that are contrary to almost everything that LBS does pursuant to DB principles. Does anybody else have an observation or two?
BTW -VERY valuable to have the WAS perspective.
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
lol