Retrouvaille question

[25yearsmlc]

Flowers

So you've been a "lurker". That's fine! But Have you read the Div Busting or Div Remedy books? They are KEY to success here, among other things.

So, assuming you have read them, what DBing techniques have you employed? What are you DOING to change the dynamic in your m?

What are your GAL and 180s? We need to know this so we can better help.

And you can't just sit and wait and hope and call that "trying" in the m.

Not saying you are, but it bothers me that the reason you are now posting

SEEMS to be the OW.

Any truth to that? What efforts or "hoops" would your h SAY he has done?

What would your h SAY are the problems in the m?

And 7 years is a lot of your m, to chalk up to MLC.


Is it possible it's a behavioral pattern of his that is now culminating in a planned exit?

I don't know how important the label of MLC or WAH is, b/c your course of action (GAL and 180s and detachment) is the same regardless.

But Why was the arrangement enough for you for so long?

I know these are hard questions but you are going to have to answer them for yourself sometime...

we're here for you.

Good luck