What were some of the problems you had before? How long has he been seeing the OW? We need more info so we can help.
From what I understand, Retrouvaille doesn't work when there's another person involved. In fact, I think that's one of the first things they ask if there is someone else.
Hang in there.
well it's a question they do ask in the pre attendance interview (phone).
Surely some have lied. But it still improves r's...I can't see how it would hurt.
At first we found it Retrovaille to be a good all round experience, with some particularly moving moments with the couples who "led" us with their stories.
Their problems and the fact that THEY worked them out, was pretty inspiring. Trust me when I say that THEIR issues, are tough ones that made ours pale in comparison (e.g., the death of a child WHILE a spouse had an affair, was one sitch we heard about. Seeing THAT couple forgive and progress --was amazing).
Then on the last day, my h and I had a significant breakthrough I did not expect. Truly very moving and something I needed in a way I didn't even know.
So I think any couple who goes and has one ear open, will benefit. Your h is conflicted enough about OW to go, and her controlling nature is showing.
She has a lot of nerve/selfishness to object...good grief. But just that, already, has been revealed by Retrovaille...interesting...
Good luck!!!
Remember that your h must believe marriage to you can be better/different and
that the affair won't be held over his head for life
or thrown in his face whenever you get angry. You will have to let it go at some point.
That's a big challenge, but it's mandatory for reconciliation...be sure it's what you want.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
