Just wanted to add something about the relationship book H is reading. I know that asking the WAS to read a M book is considered pursuing and usually does not work and/or backfires. I totally agree with that. This book was recommended to us by our MC and I downloaded it on my ipad and read it right away. I did not suggest that H read it, but mentioned that I had read it and found it to be interesting. I did not go over the points in the book or say that I thought it would help our marriage, etc.
He then, unprompted, told me that he wanted to read it, so I ordered a hard copy without announcing that I would. When it arrived, I said that I had ordered the copy b/c mine was on my ipad and I also wanted a non-digital version. At this point he had moved out, but was at home getting more clothes. I casually put the book on my desk. When he left, I noticed that the book was gone, too. This weekend, he started to read it and discuss it with me. Again, I think that if I had been heavy-handed or insistent that he read this book, he would have resisted. If I had said nothing about it, it would not have been on his radar. I think there is a balance to hit with simply introducing something to the WAS without implying any kind of pressure at all. It's tricky though and I could see that there would be situations where any discussion of such a thing would be viewed as pressure by the WAS.
M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids. Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12 Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12 Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12
