There are definitely times I can remember where I did not put my W's interests first. We have talked about these things an I have apologized profusely. She wanted to get married earlier than I did. That caused friction and resentment that I still feel she carries. I would like for us to wipe out our past and start fresh but I realize that may be impossible. We will always have to deal with the past. Based on some of the comments I have read, I tried not to keep bringing up the "moving out" conversation this past weekend. We had friends in town and I tried my best to keep ted weekend fun, light and enjoyable. The only thing I told her, regarding any of this, was "I just want you to know one thing: I accept you for who you are." she cried and told me that nobody had ever told her that before. She seemed genuinely moved by this. She has "father issues" - a very absent, critical, unsupportive father. He provided well for the family but was not there emotionally for the kids. I told her I accepted her for who she is and that I loved her for the person she was. Now where do I go from here? I'd like to keep things light, upbeat and honestly would love to do things together that we have enjoyed Doug in the past. I don't think I need to bring up the problems again and again and I think it would be so counterproductive to beg, plead, "woe is me." I just want fun, loving times to return to our marriage. What is the next logical step?
