Sandi, Valentines Day is a great question. I am not sure how to handle that one. I don't know if it would be to presumptuous to send flowers to her office? Would she hate that? Likewise, I am not sure if I should propose a dinner date. Or maybe go over to her place and cook dinner for her. Honestly, I don't know how ANY of these things would be received. I suspect (but am not certain) that doing NOTHING might be a bad idea....however, I can't pin down what the "something" should be.
I think you hit the nail on the head - I think I AM acting like the chase is over even though I know it is not. I find myself in a position where I am trying to court a woman that I have been married to for 6 years - and it requires me forgetting that there was ever any intimacy between us. It is almost as if I have to treat her like we just met. Maybe my frustration/sadness stems from the fact that I think she should just be magnetically "drawn" to me.....find me irresistible....but that is not happening. Somehow, I have to figure out how to court someone that has very little trust in me right now. That is a tricky one. Suggestions???
In a strange way, Sandi, I was happy to buy her things for her place. I was glad to help her....and, indirectly, my son. I just wonder how long she will be there....not that it matters.
As for the legal proceedings - we have a hearing at the end of the month (28th or 29th?) to settle financial matters. I really, really, REALLY don't want it to happen. However, she has not said anything about calling off the proceedings and pressing "pause" on the matter. Moreover, I do not really know if it is my place to ask her to....in fact, I think it would be best if I just shut the heck up about it and wait for her to take the lead on it. My fear is that the divorce is likely to be final in early May. And we keep churning good dollar after bad with the L's. No matter - that is something that I have to just wait out.
I think I am at a place where I need to cool it a bit, perhaps - or at least back off some. I don't want to scare her off. We have a Doctor's appointment with S today. I have him, so we will meet up at one. Still, like a 17 year old boy I am nervous to see her....butterflies and all. Where did this come from??
