feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

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after being up most of the night with the situation from last night running threw my head, i finally got up and read some of my daily readings from my Al anon book and came up with how I can handle this...

IF H calls today to check on S14..and thats a big IF...ive come up with 2 (yes only 2!!) expectaions I have of him.

1) I expect H to drop what he is doing and be there if S14 is hurt and has to go to the ER, or Doctors for what ever reason..

2) I expect H to answer the phone and be available in person or by phone, if that is not possible, to deal with S14 if he has gotten in any kind of trouble at school or here at home.

there have been 2 times that i have called because S14 has done something that was seriouse enough that I would involve H and both times he said it wasnt a good time, we would talk later and then he never called back to discuss the problem and to this day hasnt even asked what the problem was. mind you i dont call him about anything unless it is a major problem..for instance the last time I called S14 had been stealing money from my purse and it had gotten to be a problem...H text me that it was not a good time and then never called to discuss it.

When he calls I will be rational and calm and tell him what my expctations are and ask if he thinks they are reasonable and if he would be able to except them. and if not to let me know and then I will not call him in those situations. I will try my best not to sound like I am talking to a 5 yr old...(snicker)..