I would think being predictable does not lead to disrespect. It could be old and monotonous.
Disrespect for a H usually comes about when he avoids conflict and becomes passive in his role as H and father. This is such a sexual turn-off for a woman.
My advice about you talking a lot (or too much) is to keep your mouth closed and listen to what she says.
DBing is not what "feels" right to you. It is doing the right work to get the right results.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
