IB, I do that too. Look back that the whole loss of a long term marriage and a life that was a whole with our children.
I understand that.
As awful as we've all felt through being an LBS, I think we deserve credit for the feelings we've had and go through.
If we didn't know how to love, forgive, be kind, be compassionate, strive to understand, strive to stand for our marriages and put meaning into our marriages, would we have felt this pain? Where would we be? Who would we be?
Appreciate yourself for who you are. Just because our ex's can't see this in us, is their loss. And such a sad loss it is.
We just get through this one step at a time. Guess what's so frustrating is we want it over and want it over now.
I've been really fluxuating with anger towards ex the last week. I get mad at myself for not getting over it and being as care free as he is. But then I remind myself I have my feelings and I have them for damn good reasons. As devastated as I've been at times, I've grown thankful for these feelings. Because if I didn't have them, I would be no different than xh.
