My X bought DOZENS of early preg tests. Read books ad nausium. She seemed dedicated to our kids and that was the major indicator things weren't right at bomb. She wanted to be with OM more than our kids.
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With hindsight I should have looked closer at the family of origin.[quote]
X's brother had all X's issues in industrial strength. Meetng him cnfirmedcmtbworst fears/suspiscons. If I had met him pre marriage I would not have married her.
[quote]Her father was rejected by his own father.[quote]
X's father died when he was very young. His stepfather never accepted him. His stepfather and mother sent him away to military school when he was very young. X looks like her father. It was her father who abused her and her brother. Only since split has she realzed her brothers issues with her are in part because she looks exactly like her father who abused them both.
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All her family used the word my a lot.[quote]
OMG. It was always "my" children, "my" house, "my" business, even "my" bedroom. I found this to be odd and on more than one occasion said ,"don't you mean our bedroom?". She just looked at me with a blank expression and didn't reply. She refers to the house OMH and her built as "my house". The kids say they fight fairly often and OMH usually walks away and doesn't engage her (could be hs passive-agressive and she met her match, lol).
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...wonder what damage has been done to my own children.[quote]
DD is hyper-sensitive to quarrels. I've noticed she does no want me and X to fight. We haven't in years so she either has memories or she relates OMH and X's fights to ours.
