Quick update: W and I remain friends and are even planning to take the kids to the circus next weekend and on a vacation together over Spring Break. So far we are no closer to being divorced than we were 8 months ago except that she took the kids to a divorce class in early December. No mention at all since and the holidays went well even though we remain separated. I still have the kids living with me and she keeps them twice a week, so I see them every day. I remain very sad about the whole situation, but at least work is going really well for me and I've had great amounts of success over the past two months and may be looking at a promotion in my near future. Work has been my saving grace as I can focus on that and keep my mind off of her for hours at a time. I still pray daily for reconciliation and to have my family back, but she has shown no signs of remorse or wanting to try again. We do have much more contact than we did have, and I leave it to her to initiate it. Just the other day she must have messaged me twenty times in one day, and she has spent the last 5 weekends at her place instead of going to her lawyer friend and his W's. Again, there is no OM that I am aware of and she does not seem in a rush to D at all as she did in the early days. It could have been final 6 months ago if she had pushed it, but again I know that doesn't mean she won't start it up again tomorrow.
We are planning to file our taxes together and use it to pay off a new heating and cooling system I had put in in December. She did mention the other day that this would probably be the last time we file together, and I took that as not being a definite. I would welcome any chance to win her heart again but I will not pursue. I will continue to pray and be the man I feel I should be, which is a dedicated father and loving husband even though I may not have a W to love in the near future. And yes, she was intimidated by my being a therapist for the last couple years but now she has mentioned that she understands me better now that she is pursuing her degree in the same field I have mine. We talk about Psychology matters and she is fascinated with it. Ironically, we now have more in common than we ever have. Truly mind-blowing.
M 39 W 41 Married 18 years Together 21 D18 D10 S6 D filed May 16, 2011 Bomb Dropped May 18, 2011 D in process
