Well, if you do not plan on ever having children, then the risk you are taking is with your own heart only - that is a very different thing.
BUT - do not lie to yourself - it is only my facing the truth that we can grow. You say:
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He does not have a history of cheating
You said yourself, he was having inappropriate text messaging with this woman before you got married. That's cheating. And the odds are extremely high that a lot more was going on then than you know.
He lied to you, made it seem like you were the one in the wrong for snooping, told you it wasn't anything - but subsequent behaviors prove that you were right to be suspicious of it in the first place.
He may be a guy who needs that dopamine thrill of infatuation, and once that started to wear off in your relationship, he had to go find it somewhere else (some men are romance addicts that way). He may just be a dumb guy with poor boundaries who got sucked into a predatory girl's clutches. He may be someone subject to periodic depression, who deals with it by getting that dopamine lift of an affair.
Any of those things are going to take a lot of work on his part to fix, and a lot of self-awareness. So I would just advise you NOT to do what I did - taking him back without making the work.
A guy who truly wanted to save his relationship with you would go to counseling, give you total access to his email and phone accounts, be willing to live separately and date you for a year to prove his intentions.
