(((nhmom))) the erratic behavior of H has to be emotionally draining on you... You are doing an amazing job holding yourself together and creating a happy environment for you and S.
I think cflor has some great insight- since she's been there and gotten some clarification from a WAH (I'm gonna read her post and pretend she's talking to me too ) sounds like your H got a little nervous at how close he was getting, and thinks that you might just slip back into old habits if he doesn't pull away again. I'm really starting to accept that THEY are don't plan things out- that they really are letting their 'crisis emotions' call all the shots- and since we can't predict this emotions on a daily basis- we can't predict their actions.
I'm trying to think of us as a 'fallout shelter' of sorts: we are the calm, stable safe place to protect ourselves and the family- while the 'MLC storm' rages on. Sometimes the skies part and it's safe to come out, but when the clouds come out again- we have our safe place to retreat to.
Make those ribs!! He!!, make a whole feast for you and S... Let H see that you weren't thinking of him when you choose to go all out (like you said, it's not all about him and he needs to see that).
Have a great time with S!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
) sounds like your H got a little nervous at how close he was getting, and thinks that you might just slip back into old habits if he doesn't pull away again. I'm really starting to accept that THEY are don't plan things out- that they really are letting their 'crisis emotions' call all the shots- and since we can't predict this emotions on a daily basis- we can't predict their actions. 