It's Over Now

[abbey1989]

So "before all this happened" and you made the decision to cheat on your wife, what did YOU do to "try" to make things right?
Did you ever discuss your need for affection/attention with your wife prior to cheating? Did she ever really have a chance?

And then she finds out that you cheated and did a bold thing by contacting a divorce lawyer. Were you surprised by that? If the tables were turned, how would you respond?

When you say "Yes, I want to stay married. Of course I do"... does this mean that you are willing to forsake all others forever? Are you willing to cherish your W, the person who trusted her heart to you? Willing to help her regain her self esteem after being betrayed?

I really do wish you both the best. I hope that after some distance, and reflection, you are able to reclaim what you once had but with more truth and honesty about each of your needs.

Best, A.