MLC or Passive Aggressive or Narcissism

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Let's not forget that while the PA is looking for that special person who will make them happy, they are also looking for someone who will not call them on their behavior. They want someone who is going to go along w/their every activity. They are also conflict avoiders.

I can still remember times when we would be ready to go somewhere and whether it was somewhere my xh wanted to go or not, he would suddenly announce that he had to go to the bathroom and there he would sit for long periods of time. I finally wised up and would just tell him to sit to his heart's content and would go on to the function. There were other times the my father would say that he couldn't understand the man because he would show him how to do something 5, 6 or even 7 times and my xh would still screw it up.

PA's are very difficult to live with and you will most definitely think you are the one that is crazy. I learned very late in the marriage what I was dealing with and then it was too late...out the door he ran to his HO (now wifey). Back after he left, she told me she thought he was a nice man. Wonder how that's working for her now?

Any way, PA is a "learned" behavior....BTW, you are so spot on w/the PA...their school of thought is to just show up and you do all of the work. That was the way it was in my marriage for a very long time...