Quote: He is like other WAS's who don't seem to be doing anythin g to work on the M. He is trying to be nicer to me and the kids, but no reading on anything that would help him to improve himself or M. It's all up to me, yet he acts as if he is really doing something. I can't even talk to him without the defensive anger. So I don't try anymore.
Remember some time ago you said you wished you at least had H with you in order to practice your DBing principles on?? Well, he's there with you now!
I have a suggestion. I know you have very little spare time these days. But firstly, take a week 'off'.
By this I mean, just go easy on things between H and yourself, have no expectations, don't push his buttons and don't let him push yours. 'Do nothing' as it were. Just remain pleasant.
In any spare time you have - lunch breaks, late at night before going to bed, on the toilet or whatever, read one of the DB books and make a list of things you can do - goals and promises to yourself. Even if they are one or two simple things. And stick to that plan like glue. See what happens!
Remember, DBing works with only one person making a conscious effort! That's why you are here, and many would give their eye teeth to have their H's home, including myself!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
