I was really taken by your comment "was xh always insensitive or is this MLC behavior?" It is most definitely MLC behavior. Although he now says that he was "stifled" for all these years from being this "authentic" person.
SA - you characterize OW correctly - classless.
Need a break
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time