jeez, lost another response. I was going back to see if I had already mentioned something on this thread and lost the one I was writing! Well, H cant stand me being upset at all. He is good at asting "as if" almost all the time! He doesnt like confrontation at all.
About the finances. I dont really want to talk to him about it yet. I have a couple of bills that I am going to ask him to write a ck for and see how that goes. I had mentioned that while he was gone, not paying any rent, he also didn't pay his doctor bills and he has over $1000 in bills that he is bringing back to us, while he spent freely and bought himself so many things it is mind blowing. I had told him one night that he should buy me a gift after all he had bought. He asked what? I said jewlery. He said "well, there is a limit". I asked him how much he had spent on himself.. and he looked ashamed and said "Pick out whatever you want". But I didn't. I have to say that this particular thing is becoming a thorn under my saddle! He should have come back with some flowers at least!! I never had an engagement ring, and he knows full well that I want one. At one time, I wore one of his mothers solitaires- she lent it to me, he had nothing to do with it. So, he continues to talk about spending $1500 on new tv, stereo, etc, while I keep thinking, don't you have any desire at all to give me a gift???? I could barely keep our heads above water (money from my mother is all that did, and cashing out a 401K) because I didnt have a full time job when he left. And all the while, he is buying, buying, buying. Gifts is really not my primary love language, but all the languages should be addressed! I have books laying all around that I have been reading, about marriage and relationship. I have this site and Marriage Builders bookmarked, and sometimes leave the site up on the computer, and he seems totally uninterested in any of it. I am going to try very hard this weekend to act as if we are happy together, totally committed to one another, and give him lots of attention, while being happy. I'll come here with all my negative thoughts!!!
"Being at peace with yourself is a direct result of finding peace with God."
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:7
