I had posted a long response y'day when H came walking in, and I closed the window so it didnt post.

I appreciate you all so much and I am sorry I dont have the time and freedom to post much now.

I know I need to go back and read DB and DR and start finding some things that work. I seem to be approaching him in my "old" way and he is getting irritated with the questions.

For now, he is not contributing financially to the household. I did make a couple of comments about bills and things and he made no offer of help.
I am going to let this go a while and see what he does. unfortunately, while he was gone he spent all of his paychecks on whatever he wanted to, but paid no bills, so he brought those back with him. I wonder if that will become an excuse to not help with household expenses....

So far, I have been kind of neglecting my own needs- bible study, prayer, exercise, "me time" etc, because our lives are quite busy now with my son in b-ball and my dad was in the hospital.
I can see that neglecting my self makes me more irritable towards everyone else.

He is trying very hard to be nice to my kids. That means a lot to me, but I am starting to see the "old" H, maybe because some of the "old" W is coming out.
Why on earth do they think things will just be fine without putting any work into the marriage?


"Being at peace with yourself is a direct result of finding peace with God." And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:7