Thank you for posting on my thread. We share some of the same issues (with alot of others on this board too, I think).
Just a few thoughts.... Piecing is hard in alot of ways - the expectation that everything would be just fine if the WAS came home....the fears of what's OK to say and what's not OK....the feeling of having to be happy, happy, happy, regardless, but there are positives in your situation. I think the advice to take it slowly is good.
One thing that seems to be helping in my sitch is for me to keep my doubts and suspicions to myself - at least for now. This seems unfair, in a way, but I think at first, it may help. Both of your are probably having so many different emotions right now. Maybe vent here when you can, and try to keep things on the lighter side at home.
Another thing that struck me - do you think your H could be having a MLC? The spending, the anger, the "alien" behavior seems to fit (forgive me if you've already addressed this in your other thread.)If you think this fits, trying to depersonalize his behavior can help some, IMHO, although at times it feels very personal. I have read the MLC part of DR over and over.
Hang in there. You and your H are in my prayers.(((((dragonflie)))))
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
