Thank you for your response. I am working hard to do just that - it's definitely not easy though.

Yes, I love her. Very much. I could not be with her now the way she is and thr way i am, as we are both just too broken at present to be any good to anyone. But I do love her and I am working on myself. Perhaps she will work on herself too, but that I can not know and need not concern myself with.

I am done pleading though. And fighting. I wouldn't be here if I didn't want to save my marriage - i'm just not always feeling like that's what i want to do (and frankly, i feel like it is approaching hopelessness anyways).