You act with grace and dignity at these events. Please, he is not humiliating you at all, he's humiliating himself.
Seems to me he started feeling the effects of that when he asked if you could be 'friendly' with him at these places. People aren't treating him the same and until he realizes it was because of his choices and not the way you or the children act, is why others treat him the way they do, and they will continue to do so.
The woman he is with has no class and no shame. I can imagine how your S feels when she wears a t-shirt bearing his name. Others empathize with him. That's why XH and ow get the WTF looks.
When/if your XH ever comes out of acting like a teenager, I hope he realizes what he's done and what he's lost.
Your D has every right to have who she wants at her wedding. Too bad if her dad doesn't like it.
IB, I know you don't realize it yet, but you really are moving forward. Your hopefulness comes from within, no one can take that away from you.
