In terms of the respect issue, I just don't know, or perhaps am too blind to see. She says I am angry, lack the passion I once had and in general, am too controllable by her (the latter being something I observe). I have felt, at my worst, like a doormat. When we initially talked a few nights ago (when she told me he wanted to move out) I did the typical begging ("don't you want to work on this, what about our vows, how could you do this to me," etc, etc.). The next morning we spoke again and I was a little more emotional, at one point shedding tears. There are no kids involved here, so that's good. But I truly believe this is the partner God has chosen for me. I've done so much praying about this situation. I really think I need to try the 180 approach but need this community's advice on how to go about doing it.
