Many MLCers appear to thrive on drama though - and the needy OP is often very good at whipping up a dramatic storm which conceals the underlying neediness for quite a while. They appear demanding in a way that appeals to the MLCer as they can gallop in as the rescuer.
An example: about a year into the affair my now xh was at a concert [with OW] organised by an old friend of mine. OW confronted this friend and attempted to create a very public scene, because my friend had criticised her behaviour regarding marred men [and my xh was by no means the first]. Now my xh loathed scenes as a rule, but he clearly thought that OW was defending herself as a victim, rather than causing an inappropriate public exhibition. This OW quarrelled with everyone, and threatened suicide and was generally a menace to herself and those around her, but it fascinated by xh for ages.
So it depends on the type of emotional demand that the OP makes . . .
