Thanks Lotus. Well I managed to get a last minute call with my DB coach at 8:30 and i'm so glad i did. I would've confronted it pretty head on, made lots of threats and tried to move her to my way of thinking as a result - and i would have failed miserably. I ended up printing out some, not all, of what i had. Put a small note on the front saying, i had found the attached and was pretty hurt by it. And that we cold discuss it later when kids weren't around. Put in a big envelope with her name on it. She was out of the house and so I sent her a text to tell her there were documents i needed her to look at and that i would go get the kids from early out. Then I left. I wasn't there when she opened it but I got 4 or 5 text messages over about and hour. Interesting seeing the change in thought process, and I could just say little or nothing at all. Nice to do a major 180 (she would have expected me to totally confront her with that info), and to have some power in the conversation for a change. As it turns out she didn't bring up anytime after I got home today and left to go out with friends. So it's likely still evolving. I hope she's thinking about it and wondering what it cold mean. The real frustrating thing is that she thinks it's all ok because she did this stuff after telling me she wanted the divorce. The things she can justify right now is just amazing. There are so many contradictions and irrationality that blows me away. Tomorrow's another day so we'll see if it comes up, but at this point i'm being nonchalant and enjoying company of the kids. I plan on just keeping that up tomorrow and then on sunday she leaves (guess where, oh well). If anything more about it comes up I'll share it here. Oh, and she never did file the papers as far as I know. But when I do my affidavit to dispute her idea of a parenting plan, I plan on using all these emails to show that these actions are not action of someone i want taking care of my kids. I want them, and I would do 50/50 if it wasn't that she wants to move about 6 hours from here. If the pushes that then I'll push for full custody. I'll keep it updated here as often as I can.
