2nd Thread - After almost 1 year, I keep going

[BFloat]

hi KG. i don't think i'm in any position to give you sound advice on this but i wanted to comment to let you know.. i'm listening!!

for me personally, i couldn't pretend to be ok with OW. because that would really just tear me apart and i have now decided to save myself first. although my M is very important to me and i would love to be back w/ H, i do not want it at my expense. i don't mean i was faultless etc. just that there are certain things i can not compromise on. EA in the past.. yes i can get past that. i can get past his leaving us now too but.. i can not continue to put myself out there to be hurt and feeling defeated. i can't get to that point where i can't function from all the pain.

ok.. went on a little tangent. H knows where you stand. could you maybe say something like.. i'm glad you feel you found someone to be happy with. i feel sad when you speak about her and would prefer that you don't to me because it reminds me that our relationship failed. can we work on our communication so that we can be the best parents possible for our kids?

i don't know... too sappy? trying to use feeling messages.. and trying not to judge. also, someone also once told me not to use but negates what you're saying. ie.. i am happy but... (so what you end up saying is that you're not really happy). does this make any sense? hey, i'm a work in progress!!