So much progress!! Great that he is trying. I know JUST what you mean about the problem of his mother... similar problem with my sister. She has been a brick these last few months, guess I will have to try and tell her what I am up to and why as calmly as possible. I will have to couch it in terms of 'healing' a marriage, as she is a church goer and I'm not! I can understand that she doesn't want to see me hurt again though. She saw me being hurt more than once over an earlier boyfriend, the love of my life, in my twenties! Your MIL's motivations are less clear - just a controlling mother? Does she have a hotline to God to know what HE wants??
As for signing off this board - you may need this more than ever in the weeks and months ahead! I have learned quite a lot about computers since my H left (if you remember I wrote about that being an issue with him apparently) so now I have set my web browser not to have any 'history'. H noticed that when he was checking his mail on my computer the other day, but I said nothing! I have my independence! I am no longer a computer illiterate, completely!! And today he asked me what my password was, and I said, "I will have to log on for you." What's the use of having a password if I am going to tell him what it is?? Sure, if he moves back and wants to work on R, then I will tell him my passowrd, maybe!!
But Dragonflie, honesty is all very well, but have you been dishonest with him? Does he need to know what you post here? Would he not understand the need for anonymous support from those in a similar position? Also, go to marriagebuilders.com if you want to read a load of interesting and helpful stuff. Good Luck!!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
