Ha ha - grilled cheese and tomato soup? Milk it!!!!! At least you're getting something out of his guilt.
Wait until you're better and in a strong place - then just lay out the facts: "H, I know you are working on OWs house, and that you have a secret cell phone. I have to assume your affair with her is ongoing. I'd like to know what you think I/we should be doing about this? "
