I think the problem is that it's generally the dissatisfied HD partners who show up here--LD partners generally only look for help after they're bombed and informed that their spouse is thinking of leaving/has found someone new, etc, and at that point there are far greater problems than drive issues.
I agree, you don't need advice for newcomers, but at the same time, sexual issues are difficult to work on without 2 willing partners, and from my experience, a depressed person is so wrapped up in his core FOO issues that he's not capable of working on a healthy relationship until he makes his peace with himself. While depressed, they lack a sense of identity from which to assess what their actual needs and desires are.
Since it's impossible to control another's healing timetable, the healthiest thing you can do is really to consider what sort of a sexual being you wish to grow into, work on your own communication skills, etc. Don't think of it in terms of "being the LD partner," just concentrate on YOU.
