Definitely continuing with the dim. As much as possible lol. I texted back: I'm not really sure. He just said to drop by. He just texted me, OK. I thought I'd drop by for a bit. I didn't respond to that. My neighbor invited him, so I can't really uninvite him. But it does seem very odd to me that he wants to drive over. I have to wonder what else is behind it.
In some ways his depression now is a lot better than when he started the EMDR and wasn't on ADs. He'd come home from a session and go into the office, go to work, go back into the office. Finally on about the third day he'd emerge lol.
The Cymbalta seems to keep him from bottoming out, but it also reduces the highs. Definitely depression issues. Does make it difficult to deal with him and know what's really us and what's his issues.
Yes, met him at a former DBer's (in the sense that she R with her hubby and no longer posts) birthday party. She thought he really wasn't looking for a long-term relationship. He hadn't seriously dated anyone in the previous few years and didn't seem inclined to do so then, from her perspective.
I guess the reason I came over here was because I really don't feel the need to get the newcomers advice. I know the LRT, go dark/dim, be fabulous, GAL, etc etc etc. I'm not looking for advice on that so much as trying to wrap my head around the other stuff. Planning for if I can get him on board to work on this, what would be good approaches. There's very little aimed at the LD partner. Or if it is, it's under the assumption that the HD partner is still working on things.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
