Yeah, even though you're not a newcomer, I think you might be better off on that forum because of the people there who are giving advice and commentary. You essentially have a WAH and I don't think you're going to fix that through sex at this point. It sounds like you first need to DB, get BF committed to the relationship, and then you can work on sexual issues.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015