Sandi - Sorry for not answering your questions. Definitely thought they were more rhetorical and points to think about, which I think I knew the answers to once you laid them out in that way.

Quick update on my situation. Sent W an e-mail yesterday basically saying that I accept our situation and even though I will miss her and don't agree that this is the best solution, I have come to terms with it. I mentioned that we still need to exchange the safe deposit keys as well and that hopefully we could do that soon.

She called me back and thanked me for my e-mail and said it was very nice. Then discussed if I've talked with my L and asked me when I was planning on doing so to finalize this. To me, it didn't seem like there was any second guessing (not that I was expecting it, but hey, one can always be hopeful).

We discussed meeting up on Monday night at 6pm and said that we could talk. We couldn't figure out where, so I proposed that we go to the gym together (random, I know...but I go to a pretty nice gym a few blocks away from where we both live). We've met up to talk in coffee shops before, but thought it was too sterile of an environment and raises anxiety levels, so said it'd be good just to do something active where we didn't have to stare at each other and talk. She said, "yeah, I understand...I'm not sure I want to do gym idea, but I'll think about it and let you know, but I'm definitely up for 6 on Monday".

Note: This wasn't intended to be a date or anything, but I didn't want to talk over dinner or sit in a coffee shop, so proposed something off the wall which we both like to do anyway (work out).

So, long story short, we're meeting at 6 on Monday. The talk is intended to just catch up on what's going on in our lives and discuss path forward on the D.

Overall, it was a very amicable conversation...she even sounded emotional at one point as if this was something she needed to do as if there was no other choice. She said "I can't be in limbo anymore". I didn't say it, but in my mind, I was thinking "well, there are two ways to get out of limbo, and I feel like you are only thinking about one way".

In any case, I'm going to spend some time this weekend thinking about what i'm going to say. Since I haven't really used my opportunities in the past to show my changes, I think this might be one of my few shots before this thing is said and done. I haven't seen her in 2 1/2 months either, so it will be nice to see her, and I'm sure she may feel some anxiety about this meeting as well.

Thanks for all your comments and any other suggestions would be helpful as well. You all have saved me from making any additional damaging moves (such as contacting OM, family, etc.).