possible to bring back romantic feelings?

[angel61]

Hey Dom,

I'm a research scientist, do a lot of designing clinical trials and writing clinical reports for FDA submissions for the company I work with. Have a few peer reviewed publications to boot, and a book chapter. So is my H. And we are both MD's as well. Just giving you the background to let you know that scientifically, I am as well grounded as your W.

Having been the same boat as you, and wondering about the same thing, I have looked into material as well about falling out of love, etc. There is a lot of material in the internet about the phenomenon, apparently most marriages will go through this stage, and how a couple views committment and their vows and life in general will determine how they will get through this stage.

Once through this stage, real, not necessarily romantic love comes into play. That is what we should all be hoping for.

If you read MWD's Divorce Remedy book, there is a chapter there on the stages of marriage. Scott Pecks "The road less traveled" also explains the concept of love as a decision. There are many others as well.....

Of course, going into the more spiritual realm even opens up more reading material. The Love Dare explains unconditional, Biblical love for your mate.

Many groups are devoted to keeping that flame alive. Marriage encounter, Retrouvaille (from which my H and I have just gone through) are examples.

However, I have yet to come across a controlled study with showing that passionate love could be revived. That would actually hard to do as there are no objective endpoints to measure.... and against what will you do statistical analyses?

But in answer to your question, yes, love can be kept alive and passionate..... and can be recovered if lost ..... many in this boards can attest to that....

Keep reading, look into the posts of people here, start with MWD's books!

Goodluck!