I'm glad you are giving your w the pics. It would be so easy for you to keep them... out of punishment.
Kudos for you taking the high road.
It makes sense that your STBX's friend would say something like that.
Your STBX has done some pretty venomous stuff to you.. yet you do not retaliate.
This confuses her.
Your STBX is asking you to do a "love her" by giving those photos. Your response.. is to not only NOT retaliate, but to say yes. To say that "Even though you have hurt me, I will choose to love you in this instance".
This confuses her.
Whether a WAS admits it or not.. they fear that we will punish them for what they have done. Deep down in the depths of their soul, the EXPECT us to retaliate.
Not because they believe they are wrong (but they might) but because it is human nature to defend when attacked. Most people hurt back when they are hurt.
We all have very selfish tendencies.. and IMHO - those tendencies come to the foreground in situations like these.
So as much as your are frustrated, try to realize that the comment is NOT because you haven't shown time and time again that you will not punish her.....
It is because she is fearful that one day, you will.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
