I have a question.... Several people have told me to go real slow with this reconciliation, for H to not move back until I am sure about some things, primarily for me if he develops a relationship with my kids from first marriage. Advice has been to wait several months, and get all the answers I need as to what he was doing for the 2 months, was there OW, what did he spend all his money on, etc. I am not sure if I want to grill him on this stuff. It was obviously time and space that he needed at that time. I am not sure if I want to know if there was OW. If there was, and we reconcile, would he think that he could get away with that again, whereas if I never ask (why would he tell the truth about it anyway?) then he can continue to think that I think he was faithful to me.
On the other hand, I am fearful of waiting, and wonder if it would be better to let him move back when he says he is ready ( I am sure he wants to evaluate the changes here before moving back). In some ways I think we should date for a while, get to know each other w/o kids around, then I think that we should be together and work on it while living together.
Advice?
"Being at peace with yourself is a direct result of finding peace with God."
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:7
