Okay......since no one seems to have anything insightful to add, guess I'll provide some more background.
BF and I share a ton of interests and activities. Our one and only issue has been discussions/arguments over sex and sensuality. He has always been the one to raise the issue. We've probably had 4 or 5 of these conversations over the years. Last one was probably 8-10 months ago. It's always been a struggle for me to figure out what he wants from these conversations. The common complaint was that I should wear more lingerie and initiate sex more often. That doesn't always go well though as we apparently have different definitions of sensuality and initiating sex. Problem is I've never been able to get to the bottom of what he expects from me. At any rate, I would try and focus on the things I could get from him and things would seem good for a while. It seems like the pattern was that my increased effort was appreciated, made him feel desirable, and so he would initiate sex more and we would feel really connected for a while. But then it seems he feels like we would fall back into the same patterns.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
