Beatrice, I agree with 100 percent of what you said. I filed because my ex was spending like crazy. I would have been left with nothing and I had to protect the children. If I had not filed, I don't believe I still would have remained married to ex. He had been consulting with attorneys for months. He had OW in an apartment and was ready to start his new life. I don't believe in divorce either, nor did I want one, but I felt I had no other choice. The ML'er is unpredictable and many don't come out of it.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11