DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 2)

[Mach1]

And STOP looking towards her, for your answers to the questions.

I grasp this intellectually, but am confused as I said before. When you say this do you mean that I should picture the life I want and just go and do it regardless of where my W is in her sitch? I'm not sure if I'm asking the right question actually? Do you just say, "f" it, do what works for you and if your wife can keep up then great? I think you probably don't mean it in this extreme but I can't seem to find the way to ask it for myself even though I think there must be another way. I'm stuck!

I stopped counting at 15, of how many times you mentioned either the word "her" or "W" when I was reading this....

And most of those were in context of why YOU could or couldn't do something.

In time, you will realize that you have all of your answers, you were just asking the wrong questions.

I know this is a Master Poe/Grasshopper situation, but I am really grappling for insight on this.

Re-read what you posted back to me, and my response to the above. Then try to think of how you would respond to another poster, who said this.....

Not trying to be an asss or anything....I want you to really think about this....