DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 2)

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"I am really struggling with the not making my W feel abandoned, and am struggling with not abandoning myself too. I'll try this to find out about this DivorceCare. What is it/ Who is it for?"

Google the word 'DivorceCare' andf the first return will take you to their website. DC is a divorce recovery support group where you can find help and healing for the hurt of separation and divorce. While you don't necessarily fit the above description, you may find it helpful to have the support of others within the group. Also, the program is video based so you'll have an hour or so of video to watch each week along with some sharing and conversation which can be tremendously helpful.

You'll also learn about the various aspects of divorce such as finances, impact on children, healing and new relationships, that a lot of people don't consider when moving down this path.

The groups are usually run out of religious organizations, (i.e. church's) and there is a strong overtone of religious teachings but I do not find that they are trying to convert anyone, just sharing the impact of divorce from a biblical perspective plus a lot of helpful data and ideas that help people move forward and rebuild their lives for the future.

"I am getting very worried about this and if I don't stay on top there's a lot that goes down with me. I'm finding it very hard to think, except when I'm on this blog. I used to have such an amazing outlet in my martial arts days, esp as a "safe" release from the dark side. Now I rely on the Bikram Yoga, which is so incredibly demanding, to both release the demons, and to reconnect to The Truth."

Do you walk or run? Sometimes I find it helpful to just go for a nice long walk in the woods or even in the neighborhood. It is a great way to get some fresh air and some clear thinking.

When I was much younger I used to surf and I've got to tell you if ever there was a sport that allowed for quiet contemplation, surfing was it. Sometimes you'd have to wait long periods in between sets and it was during those quiet moments when I did some of my best thinking.

Maybe if you live near an ocean, you could grab a wetsuit and a board and paddle out and sit and commune with the seals and dolphins!