Oh, E!!! It's my long-lost DB twin! I'm SO glad to see you back on the boards, and I think it's awesome that you are sharing your piecing journey on the Newcomers board. There is nothing like success stories to help encourage others in their DB'ing efforts!
I recently changed my screen name; I directed an acquaintance who got a bomb drop to DB, and I do like to keep up some anonymity in case they end up on the boards. However, there have been several times I've wished I could connect with my DB friends in the alt. I don't have a FB account, but have found some DB folks on FB through my kids' accounts (I'm a pretty good detective! .). You are certainly one I'd love to get in touch with some day, as our sitches have had many similarities.
All along I have worried about your husband's ex-ow coming after you and/or your children, mainly because I have so much experience dealing with a ex-ow and know that many times they will stop at NOTHING. GOOD FOR YOU for setting the boundary with her through the C&D letter. I hope she is off your radar for good.
As for me, I haven't had any more "run-ins" (literally, if you recall my husband's ex-ow trying to run me over with a grocery cart!!!), and we continue to fall into our "new normal" more comfortably as time goes on. Piecing IS a tough road; I think so many of us want to believe that if the WAS will just come back, it will be "happily ever after." Not so, and I'm so very grateful I learned to really DB, as it will forever help me in my relationship with my husband and others. Truly, MWD could take the DB principles and expand them to many other relationships (with bosses/co-workers, family members, friends, etc). Hey, now there's an idea, MWD!
BUT ENOUGH ABOUT ME...I'm so very glad that things are going well with you! I'm grateful that Retrouvaille was a great experience for you and your husband. It's easy to think "oh, if we had just done this or that in our past, the A never would have happened," but I believe ALL things (the good, bad and ugly) work together for the good of those who love God (Romans 8:28), and perhaps the hard things that happen lead us to be the very best people HE knows we can be. I'm so glad that your daughter is coming back around in her relationship with her father; look what a wonderful example you are to her of what true forgiveness is!
Please keep posting, and know that you and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so glad to have gotten to know you through this board, as you and others (including our precious JB...gotta love his "you didn't want anything funny boiling on your stove" statement!!!) helped me get to the strong place I am today...and I would be here despite if my marriage had been saved or not!
Love to you and yours....the poster formerly known as lc4
I'm SO glad to see you back on the boards, and I think it's awesome that you are sharing your piecing journey on the Newcomers board. There is nothing like success stories to help encourage others in their DB'ing efforts!
However, there have been several times I've wished I could connect with my DB friends in the alt. I don't have a FB account, but have found some DB folks on FB through my kids' accounts (I'm a pretty good detective! 
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