New trying to DB-Help!

[jlove]

I told her yesterday very calmly that in order for her to stay here with me and the kids, the A has to stop or she has to leave and I will tell friends and family that she was having an A and I asked her to leave. I'm willing to work on our relationship and myself, but I am starting to respect myself too much to have her use me now for a babysitter, etc... She then says that there is no A and she never cheated on my, so I guess she's moved to denial. As far as an ultimatum, I'm willing to make my stand there. The OM's D is supposedly on hold due to his ex "dragging," so if she wants to move in with him and that, so be it. She cannot stand her mother who lives an hour away, so she really doesn't have anywhere to go. I love her dearly, but am starting to realize that she may be making me a better partner for someone else down the line if she remains blinded by the fog. I'm going to talk to my minister today to pray with me over this. he won't take sides and i can confide in him. So confused. Thanks for the advice Sandi2