About a week after I confronted my H that I knew he was having an affair, we had a very bad argument. I thought our marriage was over, and I made a mental note to call a divorce lawyer the next day. But, what I said to my husband was, "I've heard of a program called Retrouvaille that helps people like us, who are on the verge of divorce. I think we should try it." And miraculously, he said yes. We both knew that unless we got help, we couldn't continue together, and even with help, we might not.
So I googled it on the internet and found the next weekend program in my area. And we went. It changed our lives! In just that one weekend, we found the people we had lost in the marriage. I recommend that you ask your wife to go to a Retrouvaille weekend with you. And read the latest post from Endeavour, where she tells the story of her reconciliation.