Thanks Kaffe Diem. I knew it would be wise to go back to the DB site to be challenged.
She didn't cause me to go bankrupt, truthfully. We married, both upside down in our houses, she went unemployed, then her XH stopped paying CS on their 3 children, and I ended up working 3 jobs to try to make it, but we still sunk.
She has Bipolar D, but it was getting managed pretty well with meds. Impulsive behavior was present before - she was arrested for redirecting meds as a nurse, impulsive sexuality. Things were quieted. I knew of these vulnerabilities, but went ahead thinking we could work it out.
How are the 2 Ms the same? My W1 was mildly borderline, with great drama and need for attention. W2 also tends to be erratic with less consistent behavior. Same theme of some unpredictability when I came home. Same theme of less nurturant women. Same level of neediness developed over time on my part - neglecting my own self-care or GAL behavior.
It was a different M in that W2 was so much more devouted as a mother. To a fault, as in neglecting the M, but that was a sharp contrast.
All in all, I want love, I want to be in a R that feeds me, that helps me to grow as a person. W2 and I are different, and this sitch especially this past year has sucked, but I want her back and I want my M with her. If it doesn't work, then I want her and I to be in healthy better places.
